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==Avoiding cookie mentions==
 
==Avoiding cookie mentions==
 
#In general, avoid promoting your own ally work, whether it's a piece you've written or an argument you're involved in, directly and specifically to women feminists or other marginalised activists.
 
#In general, avoid promoting your own ally work, whether it's a piece you've written or an argument you're involved in, directly and specifically to women feminists or other marginalised activists.
 
#Don't make your first interaction with someone ever be nitpicking or querying or concern trolling their posts.
 
#Selectively interact with feminists who never initiate conversations with you, since this is a sign that they aren't developing a conversational relationship with you.
 
#If you want to engage a feminist in conversation on social media, check her bio and pinned and recent tweets and similar for any kind of statement about whether and how she wants such conversation. Also check the overall content and tone of her social media. Does she discuss feminism there? Does she discuss it with allies? Some feminists avoid activism on social media. Many limit their interactions to fellow marginalised people. These people generally do not want to converse about feminism with allies in that forum.
 
#If you want to engage a feminist in conversation on social media, check her bio and pinned and recent tweets and similar for any kind of statement about whether and how she wants such conversation. Also check the overall content and tone of her social media. Does she discuss feminism there? Does she discuss it with allies? Some feminists avoid activism on social media. Many limit their interactions to fellow marginalised people. These people generally do not want to converse about feminism with allies in that forum.
 
#If engaged in a conversation on social media that already involves a feminist, keep an eye on your inbox/mentions and her stream generally for requests like "I want to stop discussing this now" or "please drop me from mentions". And then either end the conversation or drop them from anything further you add to it.
 
#If engaged in a conversation on social media that already involves a feminist, keep an eye on your inbox/mentions and her stream generally for requests like "I want to stop discussing this now" or "please drop me from mentions". And then either end the conversation or drop them from anything further you add to it.
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==Avoiding cookie favourites==
 
==Avoiding cookie favourites==
 
A related phenomena is going through a feminist's own work and making it clear to her you've read it all or have an opinion on it all, by, eg, replying to every piece or post, or favouriting or +1-ing every piece or post. Because favouriting on Twitter has two functions — saving a tweet for later reference, ''and'' notifying the tweet's author — this can uncomfortably resemble stalking behaviour. It can also expose them to constant attention from your own followers who may not be sympathetic, or simply seem overly intimate. To avoid cookie favourites:
 
A related phenomena is going through a feminist's own work and making it clear to her you've read it all or have an opinion on it all, by, eg, replying to every piece or post, or favouriting or +1-ing every piece or post. Because favouriting on Twitter has two functions — saving a tweet for later reference, ''and'' notifying the tweet's author — this can uncomfortably resemble stalking behaviour. It can also expose them to constant attention from your own followers who may not be sympathetic, or simply seem overly intimate. To avoid cookie favourites:
#don't make your first interaction with someone ever be nitpicking or querying or concern trolling their posts
 
 
#''selectively'' favourite or re-tweet or share things from any one person. (Your own followers will thank you too. If they want to know about everything that person says publicly, they can follow them themselves.)
 
#''selectively'' favourite or re-tweet or share things from any one person. (Your own followers will thank you too. If they want to know about everything that person says publicly, they can follow them themselves.)
 
#if you would like to save many of a single person's tweets for future reference, consider using a bookmarking service that is private to you, so that the author is not notified every time you save a new tweet.
 
#if you would like to save many of a single person's tweets for future reference, consider using a bookmarking service that is private to you, so that the author is not notified every time you save a new tweet.
#even more selectively reply to them, particularly if they never initiate conversations with you, since this is a sign that they aren't developing a conversational relationship with you.
 
 
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Revision as of 22:51, 22 July 2014

Cookie mentions are a social media form of cookie-seeking — ie, seeking attention and approval from feminists for one's feminist ally work. A cookie mention is a social media interaction where a cookie seeker @-mentions a feminist on Twitter or +-names them on Google+ or equivalent in order to generate an alert to the feminist and then to get a cookie or get attention.

Avoiding cookie mentions

  1. In general, avoid promoting your own ally work, whether it's a piece you've written or an argument you're involved in, directly and specifically to women feminists or other marginalised activists.
  2. Don't make your first interaction with someone ever be nitpicking or querying or concern trolling their posts.
  3. Selectively interact with feminists who never initiate conversations with you, since this is a sign that they aren't developing a conversational relationship with you.
  4. If you want to engage a feminist in conversation on social media, check her bio and pinned and recent tweets and similar for any kind of statement about whether and how she wants such conversation. Also check the overall content and tone of her social media. Does she discuss feminism there? Does she discuss it with allies? Some feminists avoid activism on social media. Many limit their interactions to fellow marginalised people. These people generally do not want to converse about feminism with allies in that forum.
  5. If engaged in a conversation on social media that already involves a feminist, keep an eye on your inbox/mentions and her stream generally for requests like "I want to stop discussing this now" or "please drop me from mentions". And then either end the conversation or drop them from anything further you add to it.
  6. If engaging with an anti-feminist, eg a troll or harasser, do not add mentions of feminists to your posts so they can see you defending them! If the mention has been added automatically (eg because you are replying to a message that the troll wrote to them), remove it.

Avoiding cookie favourites

A related phenomena is going through a feminist's own work and making it clear to her you've read it all or have an opinion on it all, by, eg, replying to every piece or post, or favouriting or +1-ing every piece or post. Because favouriting on Twitter has two functions — saving a tweet for later reference, and notifying the tweet's author — this can uncomfortably resemble stalking behaviour. It can also expose them to constant attention from your own followers who may not be sympathetic, or simply seem overly intimate. To avoid cookie favourites:

  1. selectively favourite or re-tweet or share things from any one person. (Your own followers will thank you too. If they want to know about everything that person says publicly, they can follow them themselves.)
  2. if you would like to save many of a single person's tweets for future reference, consider using a bookmarking service that is private to you, so that the author is not notified every time you save a new tweet.